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My child sucks his thumb. Should I stop him?

Peopleís reactions vary when they see a child sucking his thumb. Some feel strongly that itís good for him to fulfill his own needs this way, while others feel just as strongly that itís not. Because of the differing opinions offered on the subject, parents are sometimes unsure about what to do.

Babies begin sucking their thumbs for the same reasons they use pacifiers and frequent nursing or bottle drinkingóto satisfy their sucking needs. The thumb is always there and so the child. Is always in control, which is not the case with the pacifier, breast, or bottle. And a baby who sucks his thumb may be less dependent on his parents to calm and soothe him since, with his thumb; heís able at times to comfort himself.

Itís not unusual for a child to suck his thumb for yearsósometimes until he is five, six, or even older. During the preschool years, sucking gradually decreases, and by the time heís of school age, heís usually sucking his thumb only at night before bed or during an anxious time, such as the birth of a sibling or a move to a new house. Some children, however, may occasionally suck their thumbs during the day when they first enter elementary school.

There are pediatricians who advocate thumb-sucking and even encourage new parents to help their baby get started on the habit. These doctors reason that thumb-sucking is a natural and easy way for a child to satisfy himself. Other doctor's say that a child whoís given the breast or bottle on demand will already have his sucking needs met and will not need or desire a thumb. Finally, there are pediatricians who are against thumb-sucking, believing itís an unnecessary habit that may harm the childís teeth.

Just as pediatricians offer various opinions, parents, too, have different feelings about thumb-sucking. Many are unconcerned but do feel bothered by negative comments they hear from others. Friends, relatives, and even strangers will criticize a child for thumb-sucking and try to pressure his parents to stop him. For many families, this is the only problem connected with the habit.

In other families, thumb-sucking is looked on with ambivalence. Parents worry about their childís teeth, about how long heíll continue, about how heíll finally give it up, and about whether they should try to make him stop. And there are parents who donít want their child to suck his thumb at all, and worry about how to stop him right away.

What are parentsí choices? If they notice this habit during their childís early months, they can try to feed more frequently, which may satisfy sucking needs. Otherwise, they can accept thumb-sucking as a natural habit and try to make the best of it even if they donít like it, or they can try to force the child to stop. This latter course can have negative consequences for the child, and it is usually unsuccessful because a thumb, unlike a pacifier, canít be taken away. If the parents pull a childís thumb out of his mouth, heíll cry and then most likely will suck his thumb again as soon as he can. As he gets older, if they paint his thumb with one of the foul-tasting commercial products sold to discourage thumb-sucking, heíll feel helpless and may whine, show increased aggression, or become obstinate.

Since sucking provides comfort, the more pressure parents put on their child to stop, the more attached and dependent on his thumb he may become. Fearing ridicule and feeling vulnerable, he may depend more and more on himself and his thumb for comfort. This is not an attempt to rebel or get back at his parents, although they may see increased thumb-sucking as a sign of stubbornness or ďbadness.Ē He has a strong desire to please his parents, but he also has a strong desire to suck his thumb in order to make he feel better. One four- year-old who knew her parents disapproved of her thumb-sucking hid under a table to suck her thumb. Parents who want their child to stop this habit should try decreasing the pressure they put on him. This, in turn, may eliminate some of his need to soothe himself.

Another drawback to struggling over thumb-sucking is the bad self- image a child can eventually develop when he senses that his parents donít like what heís doing. Parents who try to make their child feel bad about his habit (donít like that!Ē) May end up having he feel bad about him? Some parents can remember back to their own child hood embarrassment and pain over the issue.

The best thing you can do if your child sucks his thumb is accept the situation and be patient. Try not to discourage him from thumb-sucking, at least through his preschool years when his need may be strongest. Usually by age five or six heíll stop because his friends have stopped, he no longer has the need, or heís self-conscious about doing it in public. Certainly, by these ages you and he can come up with a plan and perhaps incentives for stopping, and you can firmly let him know you want him to give up the habit.






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