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When will my child he ready to use the toilet?


The transition from diapers to toilet use is an important one in a child’s development. If parents are patient and non-pressuring as their child learns to use the toilet, the family will get through this stage easily.

But if they try to force toilet-training, this stage may cause a lot of anger and unhappiness.

Parents often initiate early toilet-training because they feel a great deal of pressure. Nursery schools and day care centers want children to be trained, and friends and relatives offer criticism: “You were trained at two! What’s wrong with your child?” “You really should start toilet-training him.” There’s often competition among parents to see who has the youngest toilet-trained child, as though toilet-training were a race. Many people mistakenly feel that the faster a child develops (and the sooner he’s toilet-trained), the smarter or better he is.

Aside from starting toilet-training in response to pressure, many parents start because they don’t believe their child will acquire the skill on his own. Although they have seen their child learn to crawl, walk, and talk, they find it hard to trust that he’ll also use the toilet when he’s ready.

Children can train themselves, but the ages at which they’re able to do so vary since in this, as in all areas of development, some children are ready sooner than others. Between two and three, most gain enough bladder and bowel control to be able to use the toilet on their own, although some don’t use the toilet until they are three and one- half. Emotional factors such as the birth of a sibling, a move, or a mother going back to work can delay a child’s readiness.

Often, children show an interest in the toilet at eighteen months, but parents should not take this as a sign that a child is ready for toilet training. At this age, a child’s body is not mature enough and any toilet use will be controlled by his parents. He’s just temporarily interested in flushing the toilet, tearing toilet paper, and imitating the other members of his family. Some children under two are afraid of the toilet. It’s large, and they fear they’ll fall in or be flushed down and disappear. A small potty seat is less frightening, but many children won’t use one, insisting on the same toilet the rest of the family uses.

If parents initiate toilet-training before their child is ready, the whole family may suffer. Parents use up a great deal of energy putting him on the toilet every twenty minutes, constantly praising or scolding him, doing the extra laundry and cleanup that results from freequent accidents, and working out reward systems using candy or stars to motivate their child. It’s particularly difficult for parents to handle the resistance of a two-year-old who reacts negatively to any parental pressure or suggestions. At that age, a child strives for autonomy and wants to assert himself and take charge of all aspects of his life: “I can do it myself” Certainly there are some children who are easily trained by their parents, and other children who quickly learn to use the toilet because they temporarily fear losing their parents’ love and acceptance. But most are not successfully trained if their parents start too soon.

Often, all of the efforts backfire, and the child becomes strongly opposed to using the toilet. This situation can develop because he has been over-praised for toilet use. Once he sees how important the issue is to his parents and how happy they are when he goes to the bath room, he may realize on some level how unhappy he can make them by Lot going. This may become his weapon in power struggles.

Toilet-training efforts also can backfire because he has been pressed too hard to be “a big boy.” Sometimes he feels so anxious about disappointing his parents that he won’t even try using the toilet for fear of failure. Finally, a child who doesn’t like to be pushed and controlled might try to exert his own power by rejecting his parents’ suggestions. Rather than use the toilet, he might become constipated or else urinate or have a bowel movement as soon as he’s taken off the toilet, soiling the floor or his pants. If parents feel they must initiate toilet-training, they should hold off until he’s three and make sure training doesn’t interfere with other developmental changes.

The best approach is simply to wait until the child is ready to start on his own. Children have an innate drive to grow and develop a strong desire to imitate and please their parents, and determination to do things for themselves. All of these urges will come together if he’s not pressured to use the toilet before he’s physically and emotionally ready. It takes a great deal of patience and confidence in your child to wait. But eventually he will let you know that he wants to use the toilet. Offer support and help: “Would you like me to turn on the light? Can I help you with your pants?” You can give simple acknowledgment of what he’s done or you might want to reflect back to him his own pleasure and pride.

Once he’s initiated toilet use, he’ll quickly give up diapers. However, even past four years old, he’ll occasionally have accidents because of stress or he’ll forget to get to a bathroom on time because he will be too busy playing. As long as you haven’t excessively praised him or shamed him for his previous toilet use and accidents, he won’t feel too bad when he wets.

Your attitudes towards toilet-training determine, in large part, how successful this phase of your child’s development will be. If you anticipate struggles, you’ll probably have them. But if you’re relaxed and willing to let your child set the pace, you and he will have an easier time.

 

 

 

 

 

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