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Why is my child uncomfortable kissing relatives?


In most families, children are expected to kiss their relatives hello and good-bye. When a child does this spontaneously, his parents are pleased, and when he doesn’t, they usually prompt him, “Give Grandma and Grandpa a kiss. They haven’t seen you in such a long time.” Parents know how nice it feels to be kissed by a child. They want their child to be liked by relatives, and they feel that they’ll be judged unfavorably if he child doesn’t give a kiss.

Yet, many children are uncomfortable kissing their relatives and often don’t want to do it. This can create an awkward situation, especially when a relative feels rejected by the child or feels that he’s not excited to see her. And if the relative has brought him a gift and still doesn’t get a kiss, she might feel particularly frustrated and begin to say negative things such as, “What’s the matter with him? Is he shy?” His uneasy parent may urge him to “give Aunt Sue a kiss since she gave you a present,” and Aunt Sue may say, “I’ll take my gift back home with me.” AJI of this can put a great deal of pressure on the young child, who will usually give in if harassed enough. But the resulting discomfort for him and his parents is often not worth the struggle.

A child who resists giving a kiss is probably not rejecting a relative. Most children are excited about seeing family members, but feel uneasy giving a kiss hello for any of a number of reasons. A child may just not be comfortable with the physical contact of a kiss, or, feeling shy and self-conscious, may reject kissing because he doesn’t like to be focused on. He may want to stay close to his parents, even cling to them, until he feels adjusted to the visitors or to being in a relative’s house.

Sometimes a relative is one the child rarely sees, and he resists kissing because he needs time to get used to a strange face. A few children have private or magical concerns about kissing. One five year-old worried that he would “turn old” if he kissed his aunt, while another child reported that she didn’t want to kiss her relatives because “people give you germs on your lips.” And at times a child won’t give a kiss good-bye because he doesn’t want a visit to end, although he may not explain this.

If you’re faced with a resisting child, try to let the kiss go—most children just need time to ease into a visit and feel friendly. Instead of insisting, suggest other options for your child. He could tell his relatives about something that has recently happened, demonstrate a new skill, or show them a favorite possession. And even if he won’t kiss, he may willingly “give five,” shake hands, blow a kiss, or give a hug good-bye.

We can all remember being small and having a relative pinch our cheeks or demand a kiss. If we recall how we felt then, we can understand our own children’s reluctance to give kisses, and can help them find other ways to begin and end enjoyable visits with relatives.

 

 

 

 

 

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